So you want to date a truck driver???
Okay, so you randomly meet a dude and find out he’s a truck driver. I’m gonna tell ya, there is some shit you need to know before you start this journey or it isn’t going to work with y’all, because it isn’t easy. I’m not talking about in town truck drivers who are home every night, but over the freaking road drivers who are gone more then they are home. There is stuff you need to know BEFORE jumping into a relationship because it’s not a game you just roll the dice and hope you pass go. I have a lot to say on this topic and you may not like what I have to say, but it’s reality. Jumping in without taking this seriously, only will leave you depressed and heart broken.
First, they have a job to do. Driving a 80,000 lb truck is their job. This is how they make money. Most of these guys and gals are not pulling in mega dough so if you’re a gold digger, you might as well search other pockets. These are hard working men and women out here doing a job pulling 70 hour weeks, busting their ass under high stress for little home time, and get little respect from society. You need to know this. They are gone A LOT.
It takes a strong woman (or man) to date a driver. For real! You need to be independent! You need hobbies. Have your own job and source of income. Have things that occupy your time. Serve your community. Do things to keep your mind off the time.
If you have kids, you need to function as a single parent and be confident in that roll. You are the one who does all the parenting. It’s not fair for the driver to come home and play the bad guy. That will kill any chance of a relationship a child has with the driver.
Also, not every truck driver is out there cheating. This is going to be a discussion y’all. Some do. It’s true. I would be lying if I said they don’t. Their are some douche bag truck drivers out there, but there are also some scummy wives who cheat too. That’s not the majority though. You have to have some trust. Without trust, you are not going to have a relationship. Seriously, your trust game has to be on point! I talk to my guy on the phone constantly. After driving all day, he’s exhausted. He needs sleep. I don’t know how he does all that damn driving, but he does it. Look, at the end of the day, if I really suspected my driver was cheating I’ll bust his ass and divorce him. Guess what? He would never do that. He’s not that kind. He has never given me any reason not to trust him, so I’ve never needed to feel insecure. It goes both ways. I also don’t give him reason to feel insecure. I have never loved someone so much in my life. He drives me batty, but I’m head over heals crazy for that man.
There will be times that a load gets messed up, or they don’t get a reload and can’t get back home. There will be times that the company will put them up in a hotel because the truck breaks down or because of load issues. Hell, I remember one night my husband had to shut down, and where he was at he had ZERO signal. He tried to text me, which those text messages came through the very next morning, but because of no signal he couldn’t get ahold of me. I was at work and couldn’t answer my phone. I also don’t get signal in areas of the building at work. It was a perfect storm for bad communication. I was worried, not because of him cheating, but because I hadn’t heard from him and I feared the worst- an accident. He ended up being fine, but it was a sleepless night for me.
Home time. It can’t only be about you. It can’t be only about family. Sometimes, not all the time, it has to be about friends and fun and chores. They are not home much and they have to feel like they are living life too. They have to do things that they enjoy and they have a short amount of time to do it in. Like it or not, once it a while, that also means laying around the entire time in fuzzy pants watching tv, doing absolutely nothing while ordering takeout, because they have had enough of the outside world. That’s when you put on your fuzzy pants and snuggle up.
You’re going to do a lot of things alone. Physically alone. Emotionally, they are a call away, and it’s not an easy life, but worth it if you’re willing to put the work in. You have to be very independent. Without that, you will be depressed and miserable. The distance and time apart is SO hard, but so worth it. If you’re the jealous type or always accusing your driver of cheating, it’s not going to work. That’s not fair. That’s not a healthy relationship. Hell, that’s down right toxic and no one should be in that type of relationship. It’s hard enough for these drivers to leave a loved one at home, so if you’re depressed every time they are on the road that just adds more stress to them. They need to keep their head in the game. Not on you. Sorry, that’s the truth. A lot goes into dating a driver, and honestly it never gets easier watching them pull away. The time apart never gets easier. You’re either in or you’re not, but don’t play the fence. It’s not fair to either of you.
There’s more, but that’s enough rambling for now….
– Rambling Ceejay