Thorn in the back, and how to remove it
Moody people. They are like a thorn in the center of your back that you can’t reach to pull out, affecting everyone and everything around you. You walk on eggshells around them, tip toeing in hopes not to set them off and if their mood starts to affect yours, they will snap and tell you how crabby you are. It’s a domino affect, that’s absolutely toxic and miserable long term. Rather than saying “I’m not having a great day, it’s not you, but I really shouldn’t interact with people today, I’ll talk to you when I’m in better spirits” they would rather bark and snap at everyone around them.
I’ve been dealing with some moody people and let me tell you, I am at my WITS END with it. It’s like this toxic poison that seeps into everything and then when they are in a great mood they wonder why you are a bit timid of them. I’m sorry, I’m a bit shy if snakes that bit me yesterday…. That’s the reality of a moody person.
I’m dealing with a few in life at the moment. Some are at work which has been challenging. If I’m the one who is moody, I introvert and say “I need to depeople.” I don’t want to say, do or affect people in a way that harms that relationship.
How do you remove the thorn in your back?
Start your day off right. Prayer, meditation or whatever you need for you. Stay off the phone when you first wake up. If the person you want to talk to isn’t on par, avoid immediate interaction. That sets the tone of your day. Start it right. 50/50 chances are not good odds. That’s a shit-show.
Find a place you can have solitude at work. Even just 5 minutes. If a coworker has mood issues, avoid them. Be nice, but don’t engage or interact. Eventually, they will realize their moods are an issue or just that you don’t want to be around them. Either way works.
Try to get their mind off the mood. If they can’t get out of their funk, remove yourself. It’s not worth it. It doesn’t mean thy are not worth it, but don’t feed negativity with your attention. Eventually these drama thrivers will learn that no one wants to be part of their life when they act like this all the time. Unpredictable behavior is not fun to deal with. It sucks the life out of you. It’s like a child wanting attention. Any attention, including attention for bad behavior is attention. Remove the attention.
You can be the most positive person in the world, but drama seekers, moody people, and negative people are thorns in the backside. They get a thrill watching people walk on eggshells around them. Don’t play into it. Remove yourself. If they really want to be happy, they will realize that life really isn’t that bad. Every day really isn’t that bad.
Moody people are hard, but you don’t have a gun to your head saying you have to put up with the behavior. Depending on who they are, you may “pay the price” for distancing yourself through bigger moods, which may need you to remove yourself completely from their life, but that’s rather drastic.
Everyone has bad days, or a bad week. I can be rather moody and hormonal from time to time. I own it. I will say when I am in this type of mood, I try to avoid people. I try to stay off the phone or hide places. I don’t want people walking on eggshells around me. I know I’m in a mood and reality is, my mood is about me, not them and I don’t want to take it out on others. I want to keep my relationships solid. Biting those around you because you’re in a bad mood does nothing but eventually push them away, and I don’t want that.
Hopefully this helps in dealing with your thorns, or removing them. Thorns suck for all those involved and nothing good comes from it. It just causes distance, pain and heartache.